There will shortly be a blog about ambivalence and meditation. But this morning’s firing of Matt Lauer made me change my plans.
Are rational men listening? Are rational men amazed? And do rational men realize why the mere existence of non-disclosure agreements imposed on victims of harassment should mute any giddy enthusiasm for supposed progress? “Let it out; let it out now.”
I, for one, am skeptical about lasting progress. And I want the women in my life, as well as the women who may read this whom I don’t know, to understand that I remain vigilant. For them. For my 6-year-old granddaughter. For myself.
I’m certain that it feels good to finally express what, for many, is a decades-old murder of their soul. What we need to see now, however, is a cessation of the behavior that caused these killings. “No one knows me. No one ever will. If I don’t say something. If I just lie still.”
How? How do we do that in the culture which has an abuser in the White House, completely supported by Evangelical Christians? Are they not complicit? And if complicit, how do we change that behavior.
The brief dialog that begins Milck’s song brings up many forms of harassment. Listen to it again. Sexual harassment, to be certain, and probably most public right now. And also the dismissal of contributions of women in the workplace. I am intimately acquainted with being told to know my place; to shut up and smile. As a retired pastoral minister in the Roman Catholic Church…well…there is no ceiling more impossible to break through than that of the Sistine Chapel.
And lest I fall into the Black Lives Matter/All Lives Matter trap, I will stop here. Because I want my daughter and my dearest friend – both sexually abused – to know that their “Me, too” is not easily dismissed by being lumped into the category of “bad things that happen to women”. It is their unique pain, and I stand with them.
“I Can’t Keep Quiet.”